Dear friend,God cares about your emotions and He knows just how you feel, how hurt you are but, He wants you to let go.If you are hurting, going through a heartbreak or you are just simply offended, Please FORGIVE.
Forgive the person that hurt you, forgive yourself for trusting them so much. Do not just assume scenarios in your head for them… Genuinely forgive them. Forgiveness can be difficult. Most times, you think you have forgiven the other party but you are still deeply hugging the hurt and when you see or hear about them, you just get extremely angry. It’s okay to be angry, but for how long. We can see that Jesus set a standard on how to get angry.”Be
angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil.” ( Ephesians 4:26-28). It can be very easy to stay angry and hurt because you’d be thinking to yourself, I am not doing anything to them, or even say to yourself, I have forgiven him.
Unresolved hurt and anger turn to bitterness. Bitterness is a terrible place to be in life. It clogs productivity and success. It taints your heart, finds deep roots in your heart and then you keeps feeding it with anger, then it grows and germinate and Boom! before you know it, you are bitter about everything in life or to everybody in your life.You cannot allow it.
I totally understand how difficult it can seem to forgive but, it is very necessary for your life and the people around you. You don’t want to be that person that is angry about what has happened to them decades ago. You need to let go. You need to forgive. Forgive yourself, Forgive them for hurting you. Purge yourself of any root of anger or bitterness and move on. God wants you to move on, please ask Him to help you move on and purge you of anger and bitterness. *Pray for the people that hurt you. This would take a lot of strength from you but, it is a God-inspired, tested way to let go of hurt and bitterness.
* Open up to someone about it. Don’t just bottle it up. Dig deep, maybe even as far as when you met the person that hurt you. Bitterness thrives in secrecy. Talk to someone reasonable and godly about it. It is almost impossible to forgive and let go by yourself after holding on so long. Be accountable to someone about it.
* It is very convenient to stay angry without even realizing it. Don’t rehash the anger or hurt. Try by the strength of the spirit to be positive about the people that hurt you. You could even create a confession about forgiving them. It is almost impossible to talk bad about people you pray for. Keep praying for them, Confess that you have forgiven them and ask God to help you heal from the inside out.
Dear friend, God loves you and you can’t maximize that love if you are angry or bitter about someone or something. Bitterness, hurt and anger often birth fear. Fear to trust other people, fear to do things with your life. You don’t want to live like that.You can’t live abundantly when you are Afraid. So please, Forgive and Genuinely Forget about the anger, resentment and bitterness. It might take a while, but keep praying, talking to a godly person about it,(not someone that will fuel your anger), Confessing into forgiving and forgetting the hurt, bitterness and pain. They are all just feelings and feelings are feeble. If nurtured, they grow. If neglected, they fizzle out. Let God help you stop feeding the hurt. Let Go. Shalom!